Are you living life without a sense of purpose?
Do you find yourself wandering aimlessly at times asking yourself what you should focus on? There are many tasks that could be done, but WHAT SHOULD YOU DO? Do you start something, lose interest, and find yourself adrift again? It doesn’t feel good not having a purpose. What you probably didn’t realize when you longed for a moment to yourself that your busy life brought you purpose and meaning.
You always thought you would have more time to yourself and life would be…less demanding. Yes, the immediate demands have lessened and IT’S ABOUT TIME! The demands you faced in the thick of career and motherhood aren’t as pressing but why don’t you know what to do with this time? Does this new and completely unanticipated feeling make you kind of panicky?
What on earth is going on? Nobody told you that you are going to feel like a ship without a rudder! Is this really how you are going to feel FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?
Is structure missing in your day?
Many ladies, like myself, experienced this around the time of mid life. I found myself without structure in my day and didn’t always have the self-discipline to keep myself moving forward. Moving forward can include sitting in the recliner with a cup of coffee for awhile too! I mean, don’t we deserve moments of complete self indulgence? After years, actually decades, of charging forward and being chief cook and bottle washer I’d say that’s the least us ladies can do for ourselves!
Along with this lack of structure and a little more time on your hands can be a feeling of… I’m not sure what my purpose is? Maybe even the scary thought, what’s the point? It’s not that there aren’t a ton of things that still need done, but what would bring meaning to your life?
I discovered a coaching program and dedicated myself to a year of intense schooling to become an awesome coach to partner with people like you! I will work with you to pull out your strengths (we all have them, but don’t always recognize them). We will talk about your values and how they align with the life you are living. Are your actions aligning with what you value? Many times we don’t think about this as we go through life.
Prioritizing what you value can bring to light what actions lead to contentment and joy.
It will be amazing as we deeply explore your needs and desires. A completely different way of thinking will be exposed to bring you back to what is most important to you.
Maybe you will be a grandma before long or are already a grandma. Now, you are pretty lucky if you are blessed with grandkids! But, waaaait! If you find yourself babysitting your grandkids ALL THE TIME, that still may not give you a satisfying sense of purpose. If it does, kudos to you!
I mean, c’mon of course you love them to the moon and back! But you already raised your kids and oh boy, it was a 24 hour job, every single day! And well worth it for sure. Now maybe you would just like to be a grandma (and not a mom again). Have them for the night sometime, take them to the zoo, make cookies with them. All the fun things you can do (at your convenience for sure!)
Maybe your day plays out like mine has before structure became important for me.Throw in a load of laundry, check your phone, wonder what you should fix for dinner, send an email, check your phone again, wonder what you could make for dinner with hamburger, run to the store, make a cup of coffee and sit down to check your phone…
You end up feeling inefficient and aimless. Everything gets started and nothing gets finished.
And you wonder why “ you don’t have everything figured out by now “
Are your days fulfilling for you?
So, back to finding purpose… aside from being grandma (or not) let’s explore what will bring you that sense of fulfillment. Oh, the things it could be!
– Starting a yoga class-
-joining a hiking group
-learning a computer program
– knitting or sewing (definitely not for me!)
– finding a part-time job
-volunteering (maybe at the grandkids school)
-getting into your yard and flowers, (plants and flowers, definitely my thing)!
Maybe, just maybe, all you want to do is to stay home, have a clean, organized home, a doable dinner menu and enjoy meeting your friends for coffee. What if, you splurge on a WHITE COUCH! You never would have dreamed of it before!
Of course, don’t let the grandkids touch it, maybe you can keep it in the room with french doors you can shut when they come over. Oh, another thing about the white couch, please don’t drink coffee on it. It is extremely hard to get coffee stains off a white couch. Not that I’ve ever had one, can you imagine with 14 grandkids? But, I have spilled it on my carpet and my carpet isn’t even white and that was hard enough to get out. Actually, if you look close you can still see the spot.
As you can see there are so many things you could do and you surely have lots of ideas that aren’t listed above. Maybe you are thinking…BOOORING!!! If you are the risk taking, adventurous type you might be more interested in-
-rock climbing
-running marathons
-backpacking in Europe
-intense aerobics (to me that’s adventurous, I HATE sweating and panting)
-opening a coffee shop (a dream I’ve always had)
Since I’ve mentioned coffee a few times, I have a confession to make. I am a SERIOUS COFFEE SNOB! Don’t get between me and my espresso machine first thing in the morning! When I travel I am always looking on maps for the nearest coffee shop. And now that I think about it, I’m pretty sure that’s why I haven’t bought a white couch. It’s definitely, definitely, not because of the grandkids.
One more confession I have… I HATE WAKING UP EARLY! I’ve heard when people start aging they usually need less sleep. Definitely not true for me. Have you ever noticed that nobody brags about how late they sleep? But you definitely hear things like “ I got up at five and went for a run this morning before work”. And another thing I learned is, birds don’t only chirp in the morning! They chirp any old time of the day!
Oh, another tid-bit, (a VERY important tid-bit), studies show that not getting enough sleep is very damaging for many aspects of health! So, guilt-free, well, most of the time, I continue to enjoy my sleeping in habit.
I have an answer for all this!
How will your future be if you continue to trudge along without changes? Does it feel stifling for you to think of the same ole, same ole? What is at stake for you if you continue to do as you’ve always done? You are the only person who can answer this.
My coaching is unlike anything else (including therapy), it really is. Together we will move you from feeling blah to purposeful again! Coaching will help you live your unlived life. It will take you from being trapped in your own isolated self-criticism and fear to being and doing what has thus far been unreachable for you.
